Its all about everything . . .

Life is nothing but an amalgamation of little things like little moments, little laughter a tear and some smiles. All put together can easily define life journey of any and all individuals. so how are we all different, it’s just we have a little less of something and a little more of something. So this new year I thought I’d rather concentrate on what needs to be brought a little more into my life and what needs to reduce to just a hint. So this means I won’t have a single new year resolution this year, rather a bucket list of little achievable things. So let’s begin with a little of this and a little of that.   Little less of Little more of Laziness Punctuality Crying Smiles Eating Exercising coffee   nimbu pani hard work smart work reading yawning expectations responsibilities wishes trying ...

Phew! It’s that time of the year again. Resolutions…new year resolutions…hope that rings a bell. I know this is no rocket science and we have been doing it for years. Its relatively easy to set yourself a goal in the   form of a new year resolution. And the best part about new year resolutions is that everyone is interested in knowing them and appreciating you for having an innovative one, but no one never ever turns back and check on the accomplishments or achievements. Also everyone know that’s new year resolution last only till the year is new, i.e. only till the time you mistakenly keep mentioning   2015 for 2016. So you see it only takes a few days to get on the hang of a new year at the end of a date and thus by this time the new year becomes old and the resolutions are forgotten and buried under heaps of guilt.   But what if you really want   to have a resolution and achieve it. Remember like every other goal that you set up for yourself these new year...

Woke up this morning, only to snooze the alarm Never woke to the alarm later….missed my walk. Walked into the balcony , only to realize I missed the first bloom of my beloved yellow rose, Found a wilting shrub, oh…did I water it yesterday. Memory fails, guilt creeps in. Walked into the Kitchen,   only to realize the milk had boiled over, So little time, too much to clean. Energy fails, laziness creeps in. Walked into the living area, only to trip over a little toy, Turned to the bedroom, to see my little tot asleep. For a moment forgot the morning chronology , went and snuggled next to her in the bed, I see no disappointment in her for my failures only love and this makes me realize,  at the end..... “It’s Still Okay!” FB page -  Nidhi blogs     Insta -  @nidhijoshi27 Whatsapp -  message me email - nidhi_joshi27@yahoo.com 

U left, Tearing me apart, Pain and suffering became inevitable. I kept loving U, Got nothing in return, You even took away all that was never there.   But then one day God smiled, Gave me more than I ever wanted, He gave me U!   And today I know, Sometimes we have to let go, To realize how much we wanted.   Tears were wiped and pain vanished, You did it without even realizing, You brought me back my smile.   Today you are my world, You make me believe, You do it all the time, All that happens – is for a reason And I know the reason is U. This one is for U....KIMAYA...U make me smile all the while darling...love you!

My mantra for life is really simple, really basic and can be applied no matter what. This is not something that I found out randomly had felt. “ Oh this fits so aptly to me”. This is something that was day in and day out instilled into me, right from my childhood. So end of the day I started believing in two things that have always turned to be correct, no matter what. @ “ My mom know me better, than I know myself” It has been so many times that I think of something and when I enter the house, I can smell it simmering in the kitchen. That’s the magic my mom possesses. She definitely knows what I want, when I want and how much I want it. To be really precise on this one, let me give you an example. I am a person who loves food. For me food is something that can do many more things than just suppress hunger. I feel hunger is a very personal thing, you cannot explain or expect someone to understand or know how hungry you are. But nope this doesn’t stand true for my mom. It has...

I don’t fast as don’t like the idea of pleasing god by staying hungry. I would rather eat healthy and spread some laughter and life while serving some delicious food to people I love or feel blessed by saving and offering some to the less fortunate. Well I have never understood the concept of fasting. Let me list a few things people say in favor of fasting: ·          “Thoda araam do bhai apne pet ko….ek din na khao” really how about giving some rest to rets of the organs like your heart, lungs. I am sure heart and lungs work much harder and are the perfect candidates for rest. So basically I think this arguments doesn’t stand tall at all. The day people start giving rest to more vital organs, the stomach will automatically get the required rest. ·          “Langhanam Param Aushadahma” Yes I do believe in this, but when the larger public is observing a fast do they really do fast. Rather they ha...

“learning to say no can earn you respect from yourself as well those around you.” ― Auliq Ice I m in love with Mr. Ice….doesn’t he have a cool name…….more so I feel his thoughts are so so cool…… Sometimes…….actually these days most of the times all I want to say to the people around me is “NO”…..Doesn’t it sound so simple….but let me tell you ppl……it isn’t easy…no one is ready for a “NO”……We live in a world where everyone wants affirmation and gives  out only negative vibes…but its more than this….I feel being able to say “NO” is a big thing…most of the time my heart, soul and mind is shouting “NO”….“NO”…….“NO”……and all I Utter is a gentle and reassuring “hmmm”. Why is it so difficult to just say no and move ahead…..why do we have to affirm to the standards set my the society….why cant I just be myself……its ok ….its okay to be rude…..then be fake…..   But people are not ready for his…..not being able to say no…make me feel as if I have lost my identity…..I have ...

A man who has never made a woman angry is a failure in life. -Christopher Morley Wow….loved it and I am so sure my husband will so agree to it. If this is the way you measure the success of a man then I agree we won’t have any unsuccessfully men around. Also this gives a whole new meaning to the saying “there is a women behind every successful man”. I feel the ability to make someone angry and be able to still handle them well , can only be done when you know them oh so well. Also the anger and fights in a relationship are inevitable. Where there is love, there is anger which might root up from jealousy, possessiveness or  many more other very strong emotions which I believe are very tightly coupled with love. Also to get that pace we have to sometimes step back a few steps and gear for a really fast run. Similarly I feel in love the fights and anger only bring you more closer. You get to see that part of the person which might be very personal to them. Also...

Love…and it makes me go WOW when I think of this word. It’s not just a word, it’s a lot of emotions wrapped-up in something very small. It’s so much in so less that it makes it so so complicated. But if we talk about that #one thing for love…for me it would be LIVE. I would want to LIVE for my love. I want to be there for them….forever.   I can’t just not be there for them. If not me then who? So this question makes me go bonkers, “if not me then who?” But then again I don’t think any of us are irreplaceable. But we all have our own roles to play in every place and time. Coming back to the #one thing for love. So as I said I will LIVE and not merely LIVE but LIVE for them. And I am not trying to be a saint here by trying to LIVE for others. I guess people we love cannot be counted as others , they infect are a part of our own being. They make our existence more meaningful and worthy. By making them a reason for your LIVING you are giving them the most important asset you ha...

The past, the present and the future are really one: they are today. Harriet Beecher Stowe Wow…does not everything boil down to this one thing. If we really follow this we will have a good past and a better tomorrow and but obvious the perfect today. If there can be one mantra for a peaceful life, it will be this. Holding on to your past will not give you anything, we must learn from our past and take ahead the learnings and not the past. It should be a window where we can look every time we need experience. It must not be a wound that needs to be taken care of. I few live in today we will never have any regrets. Always remember something that might look like a mistake today, was something that once gave you happiness. Don’t regret, rather remember and rejoice the moment that once brought you something you so desired. So forget your past, cherish your future and live for today…as today all that you have in your hand! This post was selected for....

All work was done, everything on its proper place, all arrangements to have a good start to the next day were done. She looked at everything , heaved a sigh of relief and moved towards the bed. As she was about to pull her blanket and get all cozy, the doorbell rang. She was irritated and while thinking who could come visiting her in this untimely hour moved towards the door. She struggled with all her locks that she had put on just now but by the time she opened she saw no one outside. She is Stooped towards the lift and saw the lift just left her floor. Disappointed she came back. In her head she was still cursing the stranger for not having patience. She was trying to think who could it be, when she suddenly noticed something strange. She was surprised how could everything go back to being messy in such a small amount of time. She had just put everything in its place. Even the veggies that she had chopped for the next day were back to being all uncut and intact back in the f...

“Crying is for plain women. Pretty women go shopping.” ― Oscar Wilde     OMG…just read this and was like…ohhh so this is actually an universal technique…I thought it was just personal to me.. I do this quite often…..however I do add a personal touch to it by eating….I mean gorging on deliciously fattening food….. Which I otherwise avoid during my sane times.   So here you are… we girls do a lot for others….we shop for the family… cook for them…clean and just practically live running around them….and after all this we are expected to look all prim and proper all the time. And how can I forget we need  to be petite and polite at the same time…its really difficult for me…I can be polite only when I am well feed and full and petite doesn’t go with this…   Times have changed since we were little kids…we have grown up seeing our Moms…lead a very simple life….a life were things were bought only as per necessities and not as per desire or choice….but times ...

The secrets of success are a good wife and a steady job. My wife told me. -Howard Nemerov Oh how I love this quote and how I wish this was true. In my quest for quotes for every day, I keep googling for the same and I found this as the “Funny quote of the day”. Although it brought a smile to my face too but in retrospection I started to accuse myself of hypocrisy. Why does this have to land in the “funny quote” section. Is this not the reality of life, don’t we all say behind every successful man is a women. Then how come doing something in understanding with one’s wife be wrong or for that matter funny. Also a man who listens to his wife should not be considered any less of an man, in fact he a more self-assured and confident person as he is understands the importance and role of a life partner. Your life partner must be as a much a part of your decision as part of your life. But then a little humor never killed anyone. So just read it….and laugh it off. We women can endur...

If you want people to change the way people respond to you, change the way you respond to people. -Timothy Leary Right now this seems to be the virtual key to my happiness. But then I have my doubts, not each time I feel good ends up in good. So I would say you have to be super cautious when choosing a subject from whom you are expecting this. On a superficial level we can always be congenial with one and all, but then limit the public whom you actually allow to become part of your life. Also rather than having anticipation of someone changing, because you have been really nice with them is   like “You expecting a lion to not eat you because you have been vegetarian all your life!”. So basically how people feel, respond or act has nothing to do with you. It is all about the kind of experience they have had in life, the kind of upbringing they have had and many more such things that cannot be changed by you and have nothing to do with you. So stop stressing over all these ...

Love means not ever having to say you're sorry. -Erich Segal Sorry   can be both very easy and very difficult to say. I feel the difficulty or the ease you feel to say sorry is not linked to the incident nor is it related to whether it was your mistake or not. It solely depends on what you are as a person and the values you hold.   Sorry can be just a word, an expression, a savior and sometimes an emotion. It can play various roles and do many a wonderful things. It can mend an ailing heart, bring smile on a face with moist eyes,   make someone feel you understand. It can do so much good when told with a pure heart and intent. However it can do same amount of malicious things as well. It can harm someone beyond repair, make them too distant or even burn your bridges of a possible recovery. When you say sorry you conform to the person that you accept your fault, or you realize that your behavior was not correct. But then love comes in picture and as the quote s...

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. Leonardo da Vinci So what basically is sophistication, is it trying to be part of a group, or trying to not stand out in a crowd. Is the act of blending with societal norms and reforms a form of being sophisticated. If we sit and brain storm we may come out with many a definitions of what sophistication is. It can be different for different individuals and society. Sophistication cannot be globally the same, sophistication will always have a touch of culture. But at the same time there are few things that globally look stylish and never go out of fashion. The things that make you more you are the ones that set you apart. People can always copy your dress, your fashion or style statement but no one can even if they want to be ever be able to copy your Smile, no one can ape you when you are nothing but yourself. So I guess the best way to be the most sophisticated is to first be you, be the best version of yourself and sophistication w...

Questions for God, I wondered. What could I possibly ask God there were two very probable answers, “everything” and “nothing”. I would want to ask so many things that the list could be ceaseless, everything around me would be a question for god, why did he do this? Why did he do that? What prompted him to make machineries within human body that work ceaselessly to just one day stop forever. Why could not everything last forever, why do things made by him perish with time, why does the nature made by him act against us in such strong ways? Why didn’t he give us any control over our feelings. Why does everything that starts has to have an end, and if it has to end why does he get us so attached to it. Why did he make us to have expectations when he knew the others he made would break them. These and   many more questions bombarded my head and after a while I was lost, I was in a blank. I stopped and took a deep breath and heaved a sigh of relief. The questions were not an...

She was flying, it was something nobody thought she could do. The energy in the wheels was not from the engine but from her aspiration to one day master the art of driving a four wheeler. She knew there were very few people with whom, she could share her happiness and amazement with. For most people it was a simple task of coordination between ABC of driving. But for her the ABC i.e., Accelerator, break, clutch were something that were at this point of time ruling her life. The accelerator had made her dream come to reality real quick, break had put halt to all nonsense that was going around her and clutch made her mind shift gears of productivity. She could feel the cool breeze playing with her hair. In her   head she was saying,” yes I did it” but the smile on her face said, “finally I did it”. She was enjoying it, it felt like freedom, liberation from her own fears. The feeling of accomplishment was very big, because there was nothing that she ever had so much difficulty...

Patience is the companion of wisdom. - Saint Augustine If only it so easy for the wise to remain patient with the not so wise. I agree patience is the virtue of the wise, but also at the same time I feel patience must be respected and not tested. The time when you feel your patience is being tested, understand that someone is purposely trying to rub you on the wrong side. As the quote says that patience is the companion of wisdom, it means if someone is trying and taking undue advantage of you it is not wise to let them have it their way. So be alert, be responsive and be wise.

You learn as much from those who have failed as from those who have succeeded. – Michael Johnson          If this gets you thinking what can you learn from a person who failed, I would   I say -   a lot. Successful people have a lot of followers, also people always try to emulate success not trying or wanting to know the failures that went behind it. Success like perfection cannot be achieved in one go. So behind every success story are a lot of forgotten failures. Anyone who has the courage to continue despite of failures is the one who would one day be successful. There are basically two ways to learn something, do it, fail and learn from your own mistake or failure. But the trait that is followed by people who get early success is that they not only learn from their own failures, but they keenly follow others who are failing and learn from their mistakes and make sure to not do it themselves. So here we understand th...

An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband. -Booth Tarkington So perfectly put. Rather than putting your energy in finding someone just perfect, try to be the perfect someone for somebody. Also as it is said people rarely follow advice but surely copy actions. So rather than giving advise on how to be perfect, practice perfection and soon you will have a lot of followers. Perfection can be as contagious as stupidity. Also it is very addictive. So just try to be a perfect someone before you start looking out for perfection in someone else! Please share further

The word hiccups brings a smile in my face. I know many of you must be thinking why such an irritating thing brings me a smile. What can I say, hiccups have become part of a very fond memory for me. It is something that only a fortunate few get to experience. And by fortunate few I mean we privileged Ladies. For me hiccups were my first connect with now my almost two year old daughter. Her hiccups while she was still not born, got me both worried and fascinated. We have seen many adults getting hiccups and the various tricks they try to get rid of them. But my poor still in-utero baby had nothing that she could do. And I like any other more than anxious mom, could keep counting them. The max that I could have counted was 300 at a stretch. We normally sip water to get rid of Hiccups, I couldn’t understand how someone floating completing in water, who could anytime gulp down any amount of water get so many and so frequent hiccups. When she was about to be born, the print med...

They had been seeing each other for many years now. Even their families knew about them and there was no opposition of any type from either of the families. Life was going very fine, they were both in their final year of engineering. Both were soon to step out of the college and enter the professional world. Rishi was madly in love with Neetu. Neetu though looked very innocent, was a very sensible girl. They had been together for so long but Neetu maintained that though in love they had to be friends till they moved their relationship to the next legal level and by that she meant marriage. Like any other madly in love boy, Rishi always complained against this. He would always say, “Why do we have to wait, how much more formal agreements you need? The world, our parents all know about us and all have agreed to this relationship. Its only matter of time, that we start earning we will get married.” Neetu would coolly pacify Rishi and change the topic. Neetu knew Rishi would never ...

My mom always said, only ask god for good-sense(sadbuddhi) and the rest will follow. She would also tell us don’t ask for material things or for better result cause you don’t know what plans god has for you. Probably he was going to give much more than you ask. I have a story to narrate here. This story was told to me by my grandmother, who is no more but here wisdoms stays on. The story goes like this. Once there were two friends both were best friends but they had one thing in them that was completely opposite to each other. One was a firm believer in god and the other never bothered to ever be thankful or even believe in God’s existence. So let’s name them for an easy say of the story as Ram and Mohan. Ram the believer and Mohan would be the other one. So Ram would always try to convince Mohan and make him understand in god almighty, but Mohan always rubbished Ram’s claims and continued his own way of life. One morning, a day like any other , they both got up and left for ...